Achievements

Well this is what happened. My daughter had to do a life report. Questions she had to answer. Such as the pets she had. Her room and how it represent her. Her achievements and accomplishment and such. But it ended up making her stressed and upset. I guess is some ways it lets you know what kind of person you are in some ways. But her main thing other than doing it at the last minute. Was she had to list her accomplishments. That really upset her in the fact she felt that she didn't do anything that deserved saying she had something to be proud of or take pride in her self. She called me at work and was crying and upset because she felt she hadn't did anything that was so outstanding.

I asked her what did the other kids write about. She said that this one won this award. This was achieved something else and got some certificate. They all had something to show for what they took pride in their life. Which I thought was good but materialist. I told her to look deep in herself and take pride in what she had done in her life. No she didn't have a much of trophies or award. She had no certificates to show what she had done to show off to her friends and the world. She started to cry harder and I waited for her to calm down. She said see what I mean I have nothing to be proud of.

But instead I gently reminder her that those trophies will grow dust and old looking. The certificates will be sitting in draws and albums after they have all grown up and moved on in their lives as young adults. But guess what you have that will always be with you and can never grow old or dusty. I won't have it in some album waiting for you to get it when I am old and gray. I have you. She said "Mom". I said wait and hear me out before you "oh mom me".

She sniffled and listen. I told her look at all the things that you do naturally that no one can take away from you and that you have done for yourself. When you were in fifth grade you were doing sixth grade math "algebra". The teacher would explain it to you with the few other kids that were able to move on in math. Then she would teach the rest of the class of twenty or more kids fifth grade math and you had to figure it out yourself. Guess what you got a "A" with very little help because it was very nature to you. You taught yourself algebra and other math yourself because you are one grade above your own.

Look at your drawings which also come naturally to you. You thought I just throw the picture together and turn it in so it done with. Guess what your teacher ended up sending it to the art show in the district and you got first place for it when you were only seven years old. Something was so natural to you was thought of as brillent by other people in the community.

Look at now as we speak you always end up helping the younger and slow kids in class because the teacher feel that you can take on that responsiblity of teacher other in your class room. They have you tutor kids all the time. They ask and you respond with a positive outlook that someone needs something and you can provide. Because it has be so natural for you to help others in need.

You have always been a good friend. Your true and honest with them. Even if they hurt your feelings that you feel free that you haven't caved into the peer pressure that is always going on around you. You tell them that you accept them for what they are and what they do but you tell them when your doing bad things don't expect me to follow. You make your own choices and they respect you for your honesty. That is why you have good friends. Some of them I may not approve of but you have to make your own choices. Why other kids are smoking pot, having sex and getting drunk on the weekend. You have decided to stay away from that craziness knowing why add on to more stupidity. You have decided that it is not for you and don't have the urge to do either. But you let other around do it. You know that you can't stop it but you give them your opinion why you shouldn't and they make their own decisions.

And most important that you have always been true to yourself. You can look at yourself and laugh when you do something stupid. You can tell me or anyone that you screwed up and take the consequences even if you do like the outcome. But if you don't have the right answers you search them my asking questions and see what is out there.

Just because these things come naturally to you and you don't have something to show for it. Doesn't mean that you shouldn't be proud of yourself. Because you can never get trophies and awards for things that others don't notices. I notices because I see everything that you do. Others will look down upon them are really nothing. Tell you that it just being you. But guess what I see them as something to be proud of and take pride in yourself for all that you have accomplished in your so very young life.

She still said "oh mom". She hung up the phone and I guess she had to think awhile on what I said. She continued writing on her project. A couple hours later she called me to say she was going to bed and she had something she wanted me to hear that she wrote. She wrote my mom had to calm me down to tell me the craziness but I had more things to be proud of and I can take pride in myself for being me. That I was worth something even if I don't have award or trophy. I had myself and all my natural abilities. They are not much to other but they are worth more than anything that I can put on a shelf. Well that was basically what it said. She had tears in her eyes and choking voice on the phone which of course made me cry too. Which doesn't do good when your at work with a much of women say what wrong. I had to tell them it just my daughter being the good kid she always been. I just had to open her eyes a little bit to see what is there to be seen.

Damn I got lucky to have two great kids. I thank the good lord above that I was so lucky. But they have their down times but they are both great kids. Thanks again big guy up above.